now here’s a funny little ode
a nod to the past
story books of tales old
stories from childhood
affectionately told
kings and queens of the castle
green eyed villains
the dirty rascal
princesses so sweet and fair
princes who may be knights
good as clear as summer sunlight
bad as dark as a winter’s night
who will sweep her off her feet?
who’s the damsel he will meet?
what does the seated king command?
what does the crowned queen demand?
luxury, power, people at hand
knowing their place
they follow
they stand
~ will o 2021
Named after the ancient greek, possible demigod Narcissus, a beautiful man with an effortless commanding presence, someone everybody and anyone fell for or waited on. There are numberours Narcissus stories, yet the ending remains the same, his love of his own image spells his end.
Narcissism is a topic that has increased in popularity over the years, a good thing for the most part, though popularity can render a subject matter trivial via constant and sometimes questionable application
On the other hand, it’s helpful to be able to put a name to a face.
Seeing it
The realisation that that thing you put up with, in childhood, school, work, or in a relationship, that thing you may still be enduring, isn’t your imagination, you aren’t being dramatic or paranoid, you’re not projecting.
That
• look
• avoidance
• selective hearing
• small act of spite
• constant disappointment
• performance for outsiders
• range of lack of to exaggerated reaction reserved for a special one or two
• unabashed display of behaviour we’re taught is unacceptable during childhood
• use of and accurate application of phrases such as “happy wife happy life”, “don’t upset your mother”, “know your place”
Do these vague notes sound familiar?
There’s a chance you may have been, or are still currently a part of, a narcissist reality.
A reality that ranges from being metaphorical chess pieces; holding varying degrees of importance
or alternatively
drafts pieces; every player in this game is on the same statutory level, be tough the golden child or scapegoat.
The latter example may boarder on a depiction of a psycho/sociopath, someone who has narcissism within within their arsenal of antisocial traits, definitely a calculating person rather than an immature one.
It’s impact
Imagine knowing that there are those out there who:
• want friends, but the friends must be followers
• want family around, who conform to their rank in an imaginary army
• want that ‘in a relationship’ status and/or access on command to anothers body, but don’t want to deal with the living, breathing, thinking, feeling individual that comes as part of the package
• want their children to serve as their loyal subjects, but don’t want to nurture them, or raise them
• want a life of luxury but don’t want to put in any effort to attain it
Imagine finding yourself united with such a person, or realising you have been around one your entire life?
So often people are questioned as to why they stuck around so long in an unhappy relationship, or a dreadful job, or around their needy family, or with that troublesome friend.
So often, their circumstances are complex.
A lack of self esteem is the go to label and so often the case, yet on the other hand, what if antisocial behaviour radiates from the one reaping the benefits?
Doing something about it?
Unfortunately, the majority of time, there is nothing you can do about it.
You can try talking to narcy, yet they’re generally never wrong, throwing a tantrum and resorting to intimidation or guilt tripping the moment something they realise what they may be facing is common.
Many shrinks would admit, it’s often not their clients who’s at fault, and so often, nothing will change until they leave that environment, or person, in their past.
Easier said than done, many found themselves bound by an invisible chain of emotional blackmail.
A psychiatrist can only help their client, they can do nothing about anothers behaviour.
Yet if we could control others with the likes of magic, wave a wand and erase the narcy out of them, would that be ethical?
Changing Narcy for not only the great of good, but for their benefit. Would this be a good deed, or an act of abuse? A display of narcissism?
Conclusion?
It seems you can only really work on yourself.
If you can’t speak to anyone, depending on your own grasp on your state of being, perhaps check out forums and videos detailing examples and personal experiences of those who endure a tyrants reign. As they say
a problem shared is a problem halved
And often, it doesn’t matter who shared it.
Strengthen your character, look back on the past and acknowledge your experience, know when you’re being mistreated, don’t be a pushover and work on being polite yet assertive.
In addition, spot the narcy regardless or who the target is, don’t enable them by playing their side for a quiet life and if you’re up for it, let those they do target know you’re there, you see, you hear and you know.
If you’re up for it and you have power, perhaps approach in the narcy in the most polite and vague way possible, touching upon gossip, cliques, privacy, progress and ability, alluding to subject matters people don’t want to be on the wrong side of. These individuals are often masters of passive aggression yet highly immature at the same time.
Know when to distance yourself as best you can, time is precious, how much of yours are you handing over to others?
Best of luck.
#deepseahead 